I have had the pleasure of spending my childhood in every therapy of mankind. From physical, occupational, speech, feeding, and ABA. I’ve done it all. I can remember this being my normal routine for many years. Us kids on the spectrum don’t have the typical after school schedule other kids do. Instead of watching TV and snacking on the couch after getting home, we are still going.

A good therapist will understand we may be exhausted from our school day. I have been referred to as “not being motivated” or “hard to engage”. I’m just tired, ok? Jeez!

That’s another issue with some therapists. They overtreat when it is not needed. They look at us like something they can fix or improve. There is a difference between treating your client and changing their life.

Good therapists look at the big picture and build a bond with their client.

Bad therapists treat our goals like To Do lists they need to cross off.

Bad therapists offer bribes to earn compliance from clients.

Here’s an idea: Get to know your client and what supports they need! This helps us feel safe and builds trust. I’m learning nothing from somebody I don’t think I can trust.

I have instincts about therapists. I can tell if you dread your time with me. I can tell if you think I’m beyond help. I’m just beyond who they’ve helped in the past! That’s a “them” problem.

We want to make changes in our lives and you are able to help us. We are more appreciative of good therapists than we can outwardly show. The ones who have open minds and are able to think outside the box. The ones who don’t judge our behavior challenges.

You make the world a better place for us. We can’t thank you enough.